Advance Funeral Planning

Here are some tips that may help you start the advance planning conversation with your loved ones:

  • Set a time to have the conversation. Schedule it as an appointment with your loved ones, whether you want to share your plans with them or ask them to make their plans to share with you.

  • Tell your parent or loved one that you want to ensure their final arrangements are done according to their wishes, and you need their help to make that happen.

  • Use the Personal Planning Guide offered by Riverside Memorial Chapel. If you are planning your own arrangements, complete the guide and present it to your loved ones. If you are encouraging others to plan, present the guide to them and work through it together. Call 212 362-6600 to request your copy.

  • Ease into the conversation. Questions such as “Have you ever thought about where you would like to be buried?” or “What type of funeral would you like to have?” may open the discussion to more details about your loved one’s wishes.

  • Take advantage of funeral-related opportunities. Attending the funeral of a friend, family member or colleague or watching a movie or television show with funeral scenes may naturally prompt the discussion with your own loved ones. Talk about what you liked or didn’t like about the services you saw or attended.

  • Tell your children or loved ones that because you care for them so much, you don’t want to burden them with difficult decisions when you’re gone. Tell them you’ve made your own final arrangements, and give them a written record of what they are.

  • Make it a family affair. Schedule an appointment with Riverside Memorial Chapel and invite your children along to participate in the selection of services, funeral merchandise and cemetery property.